Original posted by Yevdokia “Dunya” Sheremetyeva and posted on her littlehirosima blog; translated from Russian by J.Hawk
Did you know that in Pervomaysk more than half the men, fathers of infants and kids up to 3 years of age, abandoned their wives and left/vanished/moved?
When Olya Ishchenko (acting mayor of Pervomaysk) and I were delivering aid, she said it was 70%.
CAN you imagine that?
–Single moms besiege the city government almost every day.
I can’t and I don’t want to believe these percentages. Olya must have had her numbers mixed up. She’s mistaken.
It can’t be. But…
…it’s like that. It’s the truth. Even if the numbers are approximate.
Here’s a bit of the truth. Tatyana Valeryevna Babenkova.
It’s also true she has four kids.
When the bombing began, they all went to Odessa. Returned here in May.
She has three girls–Liza, Sonya, and Dasha. Lovely and sprightly young ladies.
Who glued themselves to me, asking what tasty things I brought them.
They are smart and mature.
And mom also has a two-month Kirill on her hands.
The husband told Tanya the kid was not his, told her to go to hell, and left the city.
Here, in Pervomaysk, she gets help from her mother.
–How is that possible? Alone with kids?
–It is possible. And you know what–it’s better without him. So let it be.
The girls were tiptoeing around barefoot and haranguing mom for some sweets.
Wives can be terrible.
They do everything wrong. They nag mercilessly. They want something all the time.
Attention, money, flowers, devil knows hwat.
They are no longer worshiping their alpha-males who once upon the time laid the world at their feet.
They can become terrible and unreasonable.
And they are the guilty ones. Guilty that the men abandoned them. Don’t want to see them anymore.
Yes, they are the guilty ones.
And perhaps it’s better to live separately than in a family where the parents are constantly butting heads and hate one another.
It’s like that.
But you know what–it seems the kids are not guilty of that.
The kids are not guilty their parents are they way they are. Every human has two parents. TWO.
And I wonder, how many men who ran away from their “horrible” wives and are not helping them, are reading this post? How many of you are walking around Russia or Ukraine with heads held high–“I’m a refugee”? With your mothers, wives, and children left to their fate–how many of you are there?
70%. Seventy. Percent.
(out of husbands who have children 3 years of age or younger–so as not to misunderstand)
I don’t believe it.
And I’m also thinking–what is a woman to do, to have her man, who held vigil by her window and kissed all the nooks of her body, leave her and his kids in a besieged city? Or maybe it’s about something else?
I don’t understand, men, can you explain it to me?!